比打骂孩子更可怕的，是父母的冷暴力！看看你占了几条……
本帖最后由 射阳网编辑 于 2021-9-3 10:53 编辑 <br /><br /><section style="padding-right: 10px;padding-left: 10px;font-size: 16px;" data-mpa-powered-by="yiban.io"><section style="line-height: 1.75;letter-spacing: 2px;padding-right: 8px;padding-left: 8px;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="text-align: left;"> 冷暴力，源于婚姻关系中的一个名词，通常指夫妻之间以冷漠，冷战，冷处理代替“语言暴力”和“行为暴力”的行为，是一种精神暴力。在婚姻关系中，冷暴力对夫妻双方的精神伤害已经得到社会的普遍重视。<br/></p></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us"></section><section style="text-align: center;margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;"></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75;letter-spacing: 2px;padding-right: 8px;padding-left: 8px;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>其实，在亲子关系中，很多父母也经常用冷淡、轻视、放任、疏远和漠不关心等“冷暴力”的方式来对待孩子。</p><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>从心理学角度看，冷暴力是一种精神虐待，它的伤害指数有时甚至比打骂的伤害还要大。可依然有很多家长还在用这种方式中伤孩子却不自知。</p></section><section style="" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="text-align: center;justify-content: center;margin: 10px 0%;display: flex;flex-flow: row nowrap;"><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;line-height: 0;flex: 0 0 0%;height: auto;align-self: flex-start;"><section style="text-align: right;justify-content: flex-end;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 10px;vertical-align: top;border-bottom: 2px solid rgb(252, 210, 125);border-bottom-right-radius: 0px;height: auto;"><section style="transform: rotateZ(24deg);" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin-right: 0%;margin-bottom: 8px;margin-left: 0%;"><section style="background-color: rgb(252, 210, 125);height: 2px;"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: middle;width: auto;min-width: 10%;flex: 0 0 auto;height: auto;line-height: 0;align-self: center;"><section style="transform: rotateZ(328deg) scale(0.6);transform-origin: center center;margin: -20px -19px;max-width: unset !important;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="justify-content: center;margin: 14px 0% 11px;transform: translate3d(5px, 0px, 0px);"><section style="display: inline-block;width: auto;vertical-align: top;min-width: 10%;height: auto;line-height: 0;border-width: 0px;"><section style="" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 51px;height: 47px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;border-style: solid;border-width: 3px;border-radius: 100%;border-color: rgb(130, 127, 196) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgb(130, 127, 196) rgb(130, 127, 196);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section><section style="transform: rotateZ(348deg);" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin-top: -37px;margin-right: 0%;margin-left: 0%;justify-content: center;transform: translate3d(-12px, 0px, 0px);"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 71px;height: 42px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;border-style: solid;border-width: 3px;border-radius: 100%;border-color: rgb(130, 127, 196) rgb(130, 127, 196) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75;letter-spacing: 2px;padding-right: 8px;padding-left: 8px;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>心理学家赫洛克曾做了个实验，他把106名学生随机分为4组进行习题练习。</p><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>每次结束，就会对第一组孩子进行严厉批评，第二组则受到表扬，第三组不会得到任何评价，称为“被忽视组”，第四组则被隔离，是“被控制组”。</p><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>5天后结果显示：前三组孩子的成绩明显优于“被控制组”，成绩最好的则是“受表扬组”，更让人惊奇的是，“挨批评组”的成绩竟然优于“被忽视组”。</p><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>也就是说，适当的表扬优于批评，而就算是批评也比不予任何评价要好。</p><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>关系到孩子的事，父母积极反馈，能让孩子再接再厉，消极反馈更次之，不给予反馈则会让孩子放弃努力。<span style="color: rgb(114, 3, 3);"><strong>而父母冷漠的态度，会让孩子感到焦虑、恐惧，觉得自己不被重视、不被爱。</strong></span></p></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us"></section><section style="text-align: center;margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;"></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75;letter-spacing: 2px;padding-right: 8px;padding-left: 8px;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>知乎上有一个问题：<strong>被父母长期冷暴力是种什么样的体验？</strong></p><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>网友董董描述道，“怎么说呢，被父母冷暴力，这种感觉就像是有一把很钝的刀在你身上不停地划，不停地划，不会流血，但是痛感却很真实。”</p></section><section style="margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin-bottom: -1.4em;"><section style="width: 0.62em;height: 0.62em;border-left: 1px solid rgb(158, 158, 158);border-top: 1px solid rgb(158, 158, 158);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section><section style="width: 2.5em;height: 1.4em;margin-left: 0.31em;margin-top: -0.31em;border-left: 1px solid rgb(158, 158, 158);border-top: 1px solid rgb(158, 158, 158);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section><section style="padding-right: 0.31em;padding-left: 0.31em;"><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: 100%;padding: 10px;"><section style="line-height: 1.75;letter-spacing: 2px;padding-right: 8px;padding-left: 8px;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="white-space: normal;">“小学五年级的暑假，母亲让我上辅导班，她问我愿不愿意，我表示不愿意。</p><p style="white-space: normal;">母亲一个暑假没理我，那个暑假我基本上没开口说过话，痛苦地用头撞墙。</p><p style="white-space: normal;">最后写了封信给母亲，说我知道错了，我想去。</p><p style="white-space: normal;">我这辈子都忘不了，母亲看到那封信时脸上得意的神情，这是我一辈子的羞辱。”</p></section></section></section><section style="width: 2.5em;margin-top: -1.4em;margin-left: auto;"><section style="width: 2.5em;height: 1.4em;margin-bottom: -0.31em;margin-left: -0.31em;border-right: 1px solid rgb(158, 158, 158);border-bottom: 1px solid rgb(158, 158, 158);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section><section style="width: 0.62em;height: 0.62em;margin-left: auto;border-right: 1px solid rgb(158, 158, 158);border-bottom: 1px solid rgb(158, 158, 158);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75;letter-spacing: 2px;padding-right: 8px;padding-left: 8px;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>心理学有一个词叫“存在性焦虑”，是指无论孩子说什么做什么，父母都是一种冷漠和敷衍的态度。</p><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>孩子会觉得，自己是没有存在感的，是不被爱的。</p></section><section style="" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="text-align: center;justify-content: center;margin: 10px 0%;display: flex;flex-flow: row nowrap;"><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;line-height: 0;flex: 0 0 0%;height: auto;align-self: flex-start;"><section style="text-align: right;justify-content: flex-end;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 10px;vertical-align: top;border-bottom: 2px solid rgb(252, 210, 125);border-bottom-right-radius: 0px;height: auto;"><section 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51px;height: 47px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;border-style: solid;border-width: 3px;border-radius: 100%;border-color: rgb(130, 127, 196) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgb(130, 127, 196) rgb(130, 127, 196);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section><section style="transform: rotateZ(348deg);" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin-top: -37px;margin-right: 0%;margin-left: 0%;justify-content: center;transform: translate3d(-12px, 0px, 0px);"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 71px;height: 42px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;border-style: solid;border-width: 3px;border-radius: 100%;border-color: rgb(130, 127, 196) rgb(130, 127, 196) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75;letter-spacing: 2px;padding-right: 8px;padding-left: 8px;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>武志红说：“没有回应，家也是绝境。”</p><p style="white-space: normal;"><br/><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>也许孩子无法理解父母的表现，但父母的漠视会让孩子觉得：原来，我并不那么重要。<br/><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>这种“冷暴力”，比打骂孩子更可怕，它给孩子造成的心理创伤，有可能是一辈子的。</p><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>这几种最常见的冷暴力方式，有发生过在你身上么?一起来看看。</p></section><section style="text-align: center;justify-content: center;margin: 10px 0%;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: auto;vertical-align: top;line-height: 0;min-width: 10%;height: auto;"><section style="transform: rotateZ(358deg);" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="text-align: left;justify-content: flex-start;transform: translate3d(-3px, 0px, 0px);"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 100%;height: 14px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;background-color: rgb(239, 237, 222);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section><section style="transform: rotateZ(3deg);" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="justify-content: center;transform: translate3d(11px, 0px, 0px);"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 100%;height: 14px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;background-color: rgb(239, 237, 222);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section><section style="text-align: left;justify-content: flex-start;transform: translate3d(8px, 0px, 0px);margin-top: 3px;margin-right: 0%;margin-left: 0%;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 100%;height: 12px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;background-color: rgb(239, 237, 222);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section><section style="justify-content: center;transform: translate3d(1px, 0px, 0px);margin-top: -19px;margin-right: 0%;margin-left: 0%;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="text-align: justify;color: rgb(94, 127, 94);font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;"><p style="white-space: normal;"><strong>生孩子的气，不理孩子</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75;letter-spacing: 2px;padding-right: 8px;padding-left: 8px;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>这种情况多半发生在孩子淘气，犯错后，爸爸妈妈怒气未消的时候，这个时候，很多父母选择故意拒绝应答孩子，以示惩罚。</p><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>父母这样对待孩子，孩子可能意识不到爸爸妈妈冷淡的原因跟自己的错误行为有关，无法有效反思自己的错误，但是由于父母的冷漠行为产生缺乏安全感和信任感，从而影响亲子关系。</p><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="color: rgb(114, 3, 3);"><strong>◆ 家长正确做法：</strong></span></p></section><section style="" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: flex;flex-flow: row nowrap;text-align: left;justify-content: flex-start;margin: 20px 0% -4px;transform: translate3d(1px, 0px, 0px);"><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;flex: 0 0 0%;align-self: flex-start;height: auto;line-height: 0;"><section style="text-align: center;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 0px;height: 0px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;border-style: solid;border-width: 2px;border-color: rgb(49, 94, 163) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgb(49, 94, 163);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section><section style="display: 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style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section></section></section><section style="" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: flex;flex-flow: row nowrap;margin-right: 0%;margin-bottom: 10px;margin-left: 0%;"><section style="display: inline-block;width: auto;vertical-align: top;background-color: rgb(240, 244, 255);flex: 100 100 0%;align-self: flex-start;height: auto;padding: 14px 25px 25px;"><section style="margin-top: 16px;margin-right: 0%;margin-left: 0%;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="color: rgb(38, 38, 38);letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75;padding-right: 2px;padding-left: 2px;"><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>看着孩子的眼睛，平静的对孩子说，因为你刚才的错误，我很生气，需要自己冷静一会，希望你也想一下自己做错了什么，并且道歉获得我的原谅，在获得我的原谅之前，我需要自己待一会。</p></section></section></section></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75;letter-spacing: 2px;padding-right: 8px;padding-left: 8px;" 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style="text-align: justify;color: rgb(94, 127, 94);font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;"><p style="white-space: normal;"><strong>当孩子呼唤你的时候，不回应孩子</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75;letter-spacing: 2px;padding-right: 8px;padding-left: 8px;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>孩子喊父母的时候，父母们常常不秒回应。</p><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>因为工作忙、心里有事情需要考虑、或仅仅是因为没想那么多，没在意。但这就是冷暴力哦！</p><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>心理研究早就表明了：孩子对父母提出要求，需要父母在7秒之内做出回应（关注），如果父母不回应，或回应的时间超过了7秒，孩子都会有挫败感。</p><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>偶尔一次还罢了，这样次数多了，孩子会觉得，原来对父母来说，自己并不重要呢。觉得自己没得到爱，有挫败感，日后心理健康，和人交往都会很受影响。</p><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>父母换位思考，如果你有一件非常想和别人分享的事，别人没有及时回应，我们是不是也有挫败感呢。这就是你对孩子的冷暴力。经常忽视孩子，会让他觉得，自己对妈妈来说，并不重要，会有挫败感，日后和人交往都会很受影响。</p><p style="white-space: normal;"><strong><span style="color: rgb(114, 3, 3);"> </span></strong></p><p style="white-space: normal;"><strong><span style="color: rgb(114, 3, 3);">◆ 家长正确做法：</span></strong></p></section><section style="" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: flex;flex-flow: row nowrap;text-align: left;justify-content: flex-start;margin: 20px 0% -4px;transform: translate3d(1px, 0px, 0px);"><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;flex: 0 0 0%;align-self: flex-start;height: auto;line-height: 0;"><section style="text-align: center;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 0px;height: 0px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;border-style: solid;border-width: 2px;border-color: rgb(49, 94, 163) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgb(49, 94, 163);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" 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style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;flex: 0 0 0%;align-self: flex-start;height: auto;line-height: 0;"><section style="text-align: center;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 0px;height: 0px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;border-style: solid;border-width: 2px;border-color: rgb(49, 94, 163) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgb(49, 94, 163);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;flex: 0 0 0%;align-self: flex-start;height: auto;line-height: 0;border-width: 0px;"><section style="text-align: center;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 0px;height: 0px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;border-style: solid;border-width: 2px;border-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgb(49, 94, 163) rgb(49, 94, 163) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section></section></section><section style="" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: flex;flex-flow: row nowrap;margin-right: 0%;margin-bottom: 10px;margin-left: 0%;"><section style="display: inline-block;width: auto;vertical-align: top;background-color: rgb(240, 244, 255);flex: 100 100 0%;align-self: flex-start;height: auto;padding: 14px 25px 25px;"><section style="margin-top: 16px;margin-right: 0%;margin-left: 0%;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="color: rgb(38, 38, 38);letter-spacing: 2px;line-height: 1.75;padding-right: 8px;padding-left: 8px;"><p style="margin-bottom: 10px;white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>当你很忙，或者已经不耐烦的时候，孩子呼唤你，也请你做出及时响应，哪怕是这样回应：“爸爸/妈妈现在有点忙，稍后来陪你，好吗? 爸爸/妈妈有点手头的急事，稍微等我一下，可以吗？”</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px;white-space: normal;"> </p><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>能与孩子互动并积极回应的父母，培养出的孩子更积极，更聪明，学习能力更强。因为孩子渴望得到关注是有学习欲望的表现，下次孩子叫自己的时候，一定要“秒回”！</p></section></section></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us"></section><section style="text-align: center;justify-content: center;margin: 10px 0%;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: auto;vertical-align: top;line-height: 0;min-width: 10%;height: auto;"><section style="transform: rotateZ(358deg);" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="text-align: left;justify-content: flex-start;transform: translate3d(-3px, 0px, 0px);"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 100%;height: 14px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;background-color: rgb(239, 237, 222);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section><section 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powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="text-align: justify;color: rgb(94, 127, 94);font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;"><p style="white-space: normal;"><strong>心不在焉只顾玩手机</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75;letter-spacing: 2px;padding-right: 8px;padding-left: 8px;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>朋友孩子三岁了还不会说话，好不容易开始说话，到了六岁还口吃，朋友就送孩子去儿科医院检查了。</p><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>“医生，我家孩子说话不好，是不是智商有问题啊？”</p><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>一系列检查做下来，智商测试也做了，医生说没问题。</p><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>再问孩子是不是老人在带，有的老人不爱陪孩子说话，可能会影响孩子语言发育。</p><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>小夫妻俩摇头说没有啊，然后是沉默，沉默的时候，妈妈有时候看看爸爸。</p><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>最后是孩子爸爸开口了：“医生，孩子主要是我在带。我带孩子的时候，总是玩手机，也不怎么和孩子说话，是不是也有影响啊？”</p><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>“是啊，当然有影响。”医生说。</p><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>“你带孩子，孩子玩自己的，你玩自己的，看起来是陪着孩子，这其实不是，孩子每次抬头看你，你都在玩手机，孩子感觉不到你对他的关心和爱，因为你对手机，明显比对孩子关注啊。”</p><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>“这就是对孩子的冷暴力，效果比不陪孩子还糟糕呢，当然会影响孩子的语言发育，智力发育和心理健康呢。”</p></section><section style="text-align: center;margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;"></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us"></section><section style="line-height: 1.75;letter-spacing: 2px;padding-right: 8px;padding-left: 8px;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>那些回到家，孩子在你们旁边玩，而你们只知道玩手机的父母们你们知道吗？这就是你们对孩子的第一个冷暴力。</p><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>很多父母在陪伴孩子的时候都会处于这种状态，看着电视或低头看着手机，看起来在陪伴孩子，实际上是心不在焉的应付孩子。</p><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>孩子会模仿这种心猿意马的做事方式，导致专注力下降，并且会模仿这种与人相处的行为模式，从而形成不良的社交习惯，长大后会用这种模式对待自己的孩子和家人。</p><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="color: rgb(114, 3, 3);"><strong>◆ 家长正确做法：</strong></span></p></section><section style="" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: flex;flex-flow: row nowrap;text-align: left;justify-content: flex-start;margin: 20px 0% -4px;transform: translate3d(1px, 0px, 0px);"><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;flex: 0 0 0%;align-self: flex-start;height: auto;line-height: 0;"><section style="text-align: center;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 0px;height: 0px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;border-style: solid;border-width: 2px;border-color: rgb(49, 94, 163) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgb(49, 94, 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style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;flex: 0 0 0%;align-self: flex-start;height: auto;line-height: 0;"><section style="text-align: center;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 0px;height: 0px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;border-style: solid;border-width: 2px;border-color: rgb(49, 94, 163) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgb(49, 94, 163);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;flex: 0 0 0%;align-self: flex-start;height: auto;line-height: 0;border-width: 0px;"><section style="text-align: center;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 0px;height: 0px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;border-style: solid;border-width: 2px;border-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgb(49, 94, 163) rgb(49, 94, 163) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section></section></section><section style="" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: flex;flex-flow: row nowrap;margin-right: 0%;margin-bottom: 10px;margin-left: 0%;"><section style="display: inline-block;width: auto;vertical-align: top;background-color: rgb(240, 244, 255);flex: 100 100 0%;align-self: flex-start;height: auto;padding: 14px 25px 25px;"><section style="margin-top: 16px;margin-right: 0%;margin-left: 0%;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="color: rgb(38, 38, 38);letter-spacing: 2px;line-height: 1.75;padding-right: 8px;padding-left: 8px;"><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>要么不陪孩子，如果陪伴就一定要高质量的，全身心的陪伴。如果确实暂时不能陪伴孩子，那么就告诉孩子现在有点事情，稍后来陪他获得孩子的理解。</p></section></section></section></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75;letter-spacing: 2px;padding-right: 8px;padding-left: 8px;" powered-by="xiumi.us"></section><section style="text-align: center;justify-content: center;margin: 10px 0%;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: auto;vertical-align: top;line-height: 0;min-width: 10%;height: auto;"><section style="transform: rotateZ(358deg);" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="text-align: left;justify-content: flex-start;transform: translate3d(-3px, 0px, 0px);"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 100%;height: 14px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;background-color: rgb(239, 237, 222);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section><section style="transform: rotateZ(3deg);" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="justify-content: center;transform: translate3d(11px, 0px, 0px);"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 100%;height: 14px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;background-color: rgb(239, 237, 222);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section><section style="text-align: left;justify-content: flex-start;transform: translate3d(8px, 0px, 0px);margin-top: 3px;margin-right: 0%;margin-left: 0%;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 100%;height: 12px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;background-color: rgb(239, 237, 222);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section><section style="justify-content: center;transform: translate3d(1px, 0px, 0px);margin-top: -19px;margin-right: 0%;margin-left: 0%;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="text-align: justify;color: rgb(94, 127, 94);font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;"><p style="white-space: normal;"><strong>孩子犯错后道歉，父母直接拒绝</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75;letter-spacing: 2px;padding-right: 8px;padding-left: 8px;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>这种情况，一般都是父母怒气没有消，控制不好自己的情绪，还想继续惩罚孩子的做法。</p><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>孩子就是孩子，犯错是正常的，完美才是不正常的。而且孩子能够认识错误，并且能够做到道歉，是非常不容易的一件事，因为孩子的认识能力有限，自控能力有限，自尊心很强。</p><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>如果爸爸妈妈不能给出积极响应，孩子对于自己承认错误，承担责任的做法产生质疑，影响以后类似问题的处理，或者导致孩子过于沉浸在自责和内疚情绪中不能自拔，影响身心健康。</p><p style="white-space: normal;"><strong><span style="color: rgb(114, 3, 3);">◆ 家长正确做法：</span></strong></p></section><section style="" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: flex;flex-flow: row nowrap;text-align: left;justify-content: flex-start;margin: 20px 0% -4px;transform: translate3d(1px, 0px, 0px);"><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;flex: 0 0 0%;align-self: flex-start;height: auto;line-height: 0;"><section style="text-align: center;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 0px;height: 0px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;border-style: solid;border-width: 2px;border-color: rgb(49, 94, 163) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgb(49, 94, 163);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;flex: 0 0 0%;align-self: flex-start;height: auto;line-height: 0;border-width: 0px;"><section style="text-align: center;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 0px;height: 0px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;border-style: solid;border-width: 2px;border-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgb(49, 94, 163) rgb(49, 94, 163) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;flex: 0 0 0%;align-self: flex-start;height: auto;line-height: 0;"><section style="text-align: center;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 0px;height: 0px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;border-style: solid;border-width: 2px;border-color: rgb(49, 94, 163) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgb(49, 94, 163);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;flex: 0 0 0%;align-self: flex-start;height: auto;line-height: 0;border-width: 0px;"><section style="text-align: center;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 0px;height: 0px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;border-style: solid;border-width: 2px;border-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgb(49, 94, 163) rgb(49, 94, 163) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;flex: 0 0 0%;align-self: flex-start;height: auto;line-height: 0;"><section style="text-align: center;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 0px;height: 0px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;border-style: solid;border-width: 2px;border-color: rgb(49, 94, 163) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgb(49, 94, 163);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;flex: 0 0 0%;align-self: flex-start;height: auto;line-height: 0;border-width: 0px;"><section style="text-align: center;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 0px;height: 0px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;border-style: solid;border-width: 2px;border-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgb(49, 94, 163) rgb(49, 94, 163) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;flex: 0 0 0%;align-self: flex-start;height: auto;line-height: 0;"><section style="text-align: center;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 0px;height: 0px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;border-style: solid;border-width: 2px;border-color: rgb(49, 94, 163) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgb(49, 94, 163);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;flex: 0 0 0%;align-self: flex-start;height: auto;line-height: 0;border-width: 0px;"><section style="text-align: center;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 0px;height: 0px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;border-style: solid;border-width: 2px;border-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgb(49, 94, 163) rgb(49, 94, 163) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section></section></section><section style="" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: flex;flex-flow: row nowrap;margin-right: 0%;margin-bottom: 10px;margin-left: 0%;"><section style="display: inline-block;width: auto;vertical-align: top;background-color: rgb(240, 244, 255);flex: 100 100 0%;align-self: flex-start;height: auto;padding: 14px 25px 25px;"><section style="margin-top: 16px;margin-right: 0%;margin-left: 0%;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(38, 38, 38);letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.8;"><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>在这种情况下父母应该及时给出正面的响应，告诉孩子犯错就改是很好的行为，能够用勇于对自己的错误承担责任和道歉是非常棒的，对孩子做出积极的鼓励和引导。</p></section></section></section></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75;letter-spacing: 2px;padding-right: 8px;padding-left: 8px;" powered-by="xiumi.us"></section><section style="text-align: center;justify-content: center;margin: 10px 0%;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: auto;vertical-align: top;line-height: 0;min-width: 10%;height: auto;"><section style="transform: rotateZ(358deg);" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="text-align: left;justify-content: flex-start;transform: translate3d(-3px, 0px, 0px);"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 100%;height: 14px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;background-color: rgb(239, 237, 222);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section><section style="transform: rotateZ(3deg);" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="justify-content: center;transform: translate3d(11px, 0px, 0px);"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 100%;height: 14px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;background-color: rgb(239, 237, 222);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section><section style="text-align: left;justify-content: flex-start;transform: translate3d(8px, 0px, 0px);margin-top: 3px;margin-right: 0%;margin-left: 0%;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 100%;height: 12px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;background-color: rgb(239, 237, 222);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section><section style="justify-content: center;transform: translate3d(1px, 0px, 0px);margin-top: -19px;margin-right: 0%;margin-left: 0%;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="text-align: justify;color: rgb(94, 127, 94);font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;"><p style="white-space: normal;"><strong>只回应孩子，却不理解孩子的情绪</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75;letter-spacing: 2px;padding-right: 8px;padding-left: 8px;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>家长常常对孩子说“我知道了”，而不是去细心地听孩子叙述整个事情的经过，这样的表现，在孩子的眼里，家长就是不理解自己。</p><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="color: rgb(114, 3, 3);"><strong>◆ 家长正确做法：</strong></span></p></section><section style="" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: flex;flex-flow: row nowrap;text-align: left;justify-content: flex-start;margin: 20px 0% -4px;transform: translate3d(1px, 0px, 0px);"><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;flex: 0 0 0%;align-self: flex-start;height: auto;line-height: 0;"><section style="text-align: center;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 0px;height: 0px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;border-style: solid;border-width: 2px;border-color: rgb(49, 94, 163) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgb(49, 94, 163);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;flex: 0 0 0%;align-self: flex-start;height: auto;line-height: 0;border-width: 0px;"><section style="text-align: center;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 0px;height: 0px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;border-style: solid;border-width: 2px;border-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgb(49, 94, 163) rgb(49, 94, 163) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;flex: 0 0 0%;align-self: flex-start;height: auto;line-height: 0;"><section style="text-align: center;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 0px;height: 0px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;border-style: solid;border-width: 2px;border-color: rgb(49, 94, 163) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgb(49, 94, 163);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;flex: 0 0 0%;align-self: flex-start;height: auto;line-height: 0;border-width: 0px;"><section style="text-align: center;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 0px;height: 0px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;border-style: solid;border-width: 2px;border-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgb(49, 94, 163) rgb(49, 94, 163) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;flex: 0 0 0%;align-self: flex-start;height: auto;line-height: 0;"><section style="text-align: center;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 0px;height: 0px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;border-style: solid;border-width: 2px;border-color: rgb(49, 94, 163) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgb(49, 94, 163);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;flex: 0 0 0%;align-self: flex-start;height: auto;line-height: 0;border-width: 0px;"><section style="text-align: center;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 0px;height: 0px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;border-style: solid;border-width: 2px;border-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgb(49, 94, 163) rgb(49, 94, 163) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;flex: 0 0 0%;align-self: flex-start;height: auto;line-height: 0;"><section style="text-align: center;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 0px;height: 0px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;border-style: solid;border-width: 2px;border-color: rgb(49, 94, 163) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgb(49, 94, 163);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;flex: 0 0 0%;align-self: flex-start;height: auto;line-height: 0;border-width: 0px;"><section style="text-align: center;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 0px;height: 0px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;border-style: solid;border-width: 2px;border-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgb(49, 94, 163) rgb(49, 94, 163) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section></section></section><section style="" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: flex;flex-flow: row nowrap;margin-right: 0%;margin-bottom: 10px;margin-left: 0%;"><section style="display: inline-block;width: auto;vertical-align: top;background-color: rgb(240, 244, 255);flex: 100 100 0%;align-self: flex-start;height: auto;padding: 14px 25px 25px;"><section style="margin-top: 16px;margin-right: 0%;margin-left: 0%;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="color: rgb(38, 38, 38);letter-spacing: 2px;line-height: 1.8;padding-right: 8px;padding-left: 8px;"><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>“是的，我知道你很委屈，我们一起想想怎样解决才好。”</p><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>等你说完其实孩子已经感觉好多了。</p><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>如果家长只是帮宝宝解决问题，而不注意及时地回应宝宝的情绪，虽然也帮助到了孩子，但也是一种欠缺，并不是最高质量的回应，也是冷暴力的一种哦。</p></section></section></section></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75;letter-spacing: 2px;padding-right: 8px;padding-left: 8px;" powered-by="xiumi.us"></section><section style="text-align: center;margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;"></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us"></section><section style="text-align: center;justify-content: center;margin: 10px 0%;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: auto;vertical-align: top;line-height: 0;min-width: 10%;height: auto;"><section style="transform: rotateZ(358deg);" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="text-align: left;justify-content: flex-start;transform: translate3d(-3px, 0px, 0px);"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 100%;height: 14px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;background-color: rgb(239, 237, 222);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section><section style="transform: rotateZ(3deg);" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="justify-content: center;transform: translate3d(11px, 0px, 0px);"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 100%;height: 14px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;background-color: rgb(239, 237, 222);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section><section style="text-align: left;justify-content: flex-start;transform: translate3d(8px, 0px, 0px);margin-top: 3px;margin-right: 0%;margin-left: 0%;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 100%;height: 12px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;background-color: rgb(239, 237, 222);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section><section style="justify-content: center;transform: translate3d(1px, 0px, 0px);margin-top: -19px;margin-right: 0%;margin-left: 0%;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="text-align: justify;color: rgb(94, 127, 94);font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;"><p style="white-space: normal;"><strong>夫妻吵架迁怒于孩子</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75;letter-spacing: 2px;padding-right: 8px;padding-left: 8px;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>父母感情失和爆发争吵，孩子作为第三者而成为冷暴力的受害者。</p><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>所以，当孩子去找宝妈奶爸时，很多家长会用“别来烦我”“你跟你爸爸一样，不是好东西”来打发孩子。</p><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>殊不知，早已伤害了孩子。</p><p style="white-space: normal;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"> </span>因为父母的消极情绪会产生很不好的影响。有的孩子因此形成了自闭症，甚至因压力大走上了轻生的道路。</p><p style="white-space: normal;"><strong><span style="color: rgb(114, 3, 3);">◆ 家长正确做法：</span></strong></p></section><section style="" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: flex;flex-flow: row nowrap;text-align: left;justify-content: flex-start;margin: 20px 0% -4px;transform: translate3d(1px, 0px, 0px);"><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;flex: 0 0 0%;align-self: flex-start;height: auto;line-height: 0;"><section style="text-align: center;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 0px;height: 0px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;border-style: solid;border-width: 2px;border-color: rgb(49, 94, 163) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgb(49, 94, 163);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;flex: 0 0 0%;align-self: flex-start;height: auto;line-height: 0;border-width: 0px;"><section style="text-align: center;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 0px;height: 0px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;border-style: solid;border-width: 2px;border-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgb(49, 94, 163) rgb(49, 94, 163) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><section><svg viewbox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section><section 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